Recommencing a New Normal

It has been difficult shifting my brain back into work mode as not all our services are able to be recommenced. Those for the elderly in Nursing Homes are the most effected with visitors being heavily restricted. In-home programs have restarted and this is slowly getting back to preCovid normal.

Changing my mindset, back into life outside of the bubble I created for the safety of my family has been interesting. I liked my bubble, I discovered. Also that I had been working far too many crazy hours preCovid. After some discussion with hubby and family, I made the decision to reduce my work hours and load, remove the home office as it enabled those crazy.

I loved loved having my hubby around all day, every day. I loved the time to just be, to listen, to chat and mindfully engage. We realised we have let some things slip and needed to do better with each other. Some bad habits formed though during this hiatus. We stayed up late, we slept in for the first time in years. I then returned to better hours but discovered hubby loves late nights and slow mornings.

Back to work – Sort of.

Playgroup resumed in August with the return of most of our families, after a long break. Wow, how the little ones have grown. Babes in arms were now crawling and those crawling are now toddlers racing around the hall. With Covid came changes to our room location at Evelyn Gribble Community Centre, Brookdale and Covid restrictions on how we work. It has posed some challenges but my staff have done a fantastic job adjusting to the new normal that is the Covid space.

We are now in the main hall which is a huge space. We do not have an outdoor play area for water or messy play but the main hall has space to run and room for a lot of outdoor play equipment. Food preparation and delivery has changed but is working well. The menu has not changed significantly, so a blessing to be found. Craft has been single use items but is working out well. Deb is having to be super creative in the design process. Who knew toilet roll inserts were so important in preschool craft!

Term 4, began on 21st October and it is all about Christmas. Christmas craft, decorations, Santa photos and mementos to treasure. If you haven’t visited us yet, come on down any Wednesday 9.30am until december 2nd 2020.

Our Family focused programs are starting to be rolled out, but will not be back in full until Feb 2021, if restrictions have been lifted. Watch this space!

I feel positive about where we are headed in this post-Covid world. Being mindful of others and the routines and patterns we use is essential for staying healthy and in a healthy mind space. Managing our stress levels, connecting with others, checking in on those we love and being watchful of our neighbours needs. I hope this means we will continue to be kinder, thoughful, respectful and aware. It starts with you and me and grows as we spread it. Remember ONE person is a very powerful force. Don’t waste it.

Until next time.


Coronavirus challenges

How are you all travelling in these challenging times? Do you feel restricted, cut off, unsure or afraid? All these feelings are valid but they don’t serve us well.

Coming into this time of global crisis, I consciously made a decision to not buy into any of the hype, panic buying or constant discussion. Why, I strongly believed that it would buy into the fear and craziness around me on every social media screen, conversations and contribute to my families concerns alas allowing fear to grow. By stepping back, it has allowed me to take in the information i needed to keep us healthy and complying with current laws, support my family to self isolate and support my friends and faith community. It’s a challenge and each day brings another THING that has changed now requiring brain power that it probably hasn’t needed before.

Where do I get toilet paper from? I am going to need soap powder, shampoo, soap, cat food in the next few weeks. Never in your wildest dreams did I think, “Going on a bear hunt” would become “Going on a toilet paper hunt”. I’m struggling to understand how toilet paper fits into this current crisis. What it has highlighted, is how far our society has disconnected with each other and community (Global) thinking. What is in the common good?

So lets ask that question – What is in the common good? Is panic buying in the common good? What happens when those most vulnerable in our society need those items and can’t get them without going shop to shop. How do the elderly, disabled, mental health challenged or those without transport do this? Their anxiety levels rise and their ability to stay on top of it decreases. Is this in the common good? I do not believe it is.

Our church community went into shock when our church and church groups/activities was shut down. Never had this happened in Australia. My church life is very important to me and I am involved in many of the activities. So a group of us got together and created a Facebook group so we could communicate. This grew into our groups going virtual and doing video sessions. It has been amazing, faith building and supportive.

So, what can we do? Breathe in fresh air daily, get out into the sunshine and nature. Be present in that moment, feel the sun’s warmth and fill your lungs with fresh air. Listen with intent to the sounds of life about you. Smell the change of season and bask in the cooler days. Call your friends on the phone and talk about life, feelings and family but keep discussion around the Covid 19 to a minimum. Stay in the here and now. Recharge your batteries and see this time of quiet isolation as a gift that you can use to restore you to optimum health, physically and mentally.

I’m loving this pause in my very busy schedule. I’m relishing time with my kids and husband to play board games, read, sew, cook and spring clean. I’m sleeping 9 hours, eating at better times of the day, exercising, praying. The outcome is I am feeling connected to myself and my family.

Self-care, self-aware, self-connection.

God bless

Suspension of Playgroup


Playgroup has been suspended until further notice. It is sad after such a wonderful start to the term but it is for everyone’s safety.

There is however a lot we can do with this forced break. We can connect fully with our children and family. Take time to listen to their concerns and tell them ours. We can recharge our batteries. We can rediscover books or a craft left behind in the hush of our daily lives.

To this aim I will be putting playgroup songs and stories on here each week for you to share with your little ones. I will also put on the weekly craft item and templates for you to do at home. If you need a can doorstep drop to you a pack with the items in. Email or call me.    or 0410 269 518

Keep in touch and know that as soon as we can, playgroup will resume.

Christyne, Liz, Jess, Oceana, Deb and Grannan


Where to Now?

Its a strange world we are living in right now and there is the possibility that we could become overwhelmed with all the information and decisions being made that we have no control over. Or do we have no control?

We can make decisions for ourselves and our loved ones that support us to be mentally and physically healthy. We can self-isolate and if not possible minimise contact and practice good social distancing. Can we do more? Yes we can. Getting out into the sunshine for even 5 minutes a day is of benefit to you. Smell the air, the flowers and grass. Sit and drink a cuppa and allow your mind to rest. Observe the plants and insects around them. Daydream, its a wonderful brain relaxer.

It is important to also reframe negative thoughts. No we Can’t go to the cinema, but we Can watch a movie on Netflix, DVD or Foxtel in our PJs or daggy trackies at a time that suits us. We can eat the snacks that the cinemas don’t have and pause it to go to the loo. Can’t do that at the cinema.

We can send emails to our loved ones and friends telling them all the latest news and thoughts. We can, join an online church group to be spiritually nourished. We can call our friends to check in with them. We can dance around the house naked if we wanted to and just enjoy the moment. But we can also take time to just BE. BE in the moment, BE present and aware, BE alive and count our blessings. We can chose not to join the craziness and stockpiling that has left us bewildered at human behaviour. Instead we can seek out those stories of love, community spirit and hope. There is an amazing group on Facebook called Adopt a healthcare worker and its full of the selfless things people are doing to support each other. They are the CAN DO’s. Sending words of encourage to others, open your heart to listen to others concerns, Hold space for others and let them know you are ready to support them when they need. Sometimes that’s all someone needs to hear.

Most of all understand this is a moment in time, one shared by millions but it too will pass and life will go on as it has done for all of time. My hope is that we come out the other side counting our blessings and maybe with an altered mindset. One that puts humanity and connection first. One that is compassionate and forgiving. One that supports us to be ALL that we can be. One that says, ENOUGH to violence and hatred. I can only live in HOPE.

Self-care, self-aware, self-connection

God bless you and remember, you are in my thoughts and prayers.


I don’t have time!

How many times have I said that to myself or had other busy mum’s say it to me? Too many times to count. This year I decided that I needed to stop saying that to myself about ME. If I’m not going to make time for ME, who am I going to make time for?

The logistics:

What is making time? We all go along to courses, events and you hear, Self-care, make time to self-care but what is that really? Firstly it more than taking whole blocks of time and going on retreat or coffee with friends, though those things are wonderful and we do need them.

Its more than that. It is finding moments in a day to breath, stop, daydream, feel, see and be heard. Its saying No or please wait. Saying halt to being interrupted by someone looking for you to do something for them, while sitting down for 5 minutes to drink a cup of tea. It’s taking 5 minutes to stand outside in the sun just to feel its rays and feel alive. Its being heard when you have something to say. It’s been seen when you are at a low point or when you have done well. It’s acknowledgement that you work hard, that life is hard some days. Its acknowledgement that your human and make mistakes and it’s okay.

Kate Seselja from the Hope Project once told me, for her it was getting up an hour earlier each day to have her time. Time to Be.

For me, it has been about deepening my faith journey and challenging myself to step into new things. It has also been about making sure I connect well, each day with my partner. Some days that’s not hard but others, well life gets in the way and the only conversation had that day is about a grumpy child and their quest to torture us as parents. Lol. I keep reminding myself that I am a woman with needs and connect with my beautiful man and hearing his tender words to me, is important.

Its examining my relationships and how I conduct each one. Some are old connections comfy and true. Some are new and emerging.  My business partner often asks, “Are you looking after you?” and I often go, “Yes I am” but actually sometimes I’m not. She also said not to put more into more work into a client than they were prepared to put into themselves. Urggg that’s a hard one for me.

Recently while talking to a group of mum’s, I noticed that even though they are taking time to connect with others the share task of co-ordinating getting out the door with kids in toe and then wrangling them while in a busy coffee shop left them exhausted and finding reasons to not go again. It’s just to hard. So I suggested, self-care sharing.

Each mum has each others kids so that the childless mum can go and connect with a friend or family member and have a meaningful conversation 1 to 1 distraction free or a coffee date with themselves and enjoy the experience. It doesn’t need to be hard work or often just once in a while. We ask for help if its for IMPORTANT things like appointments etc but self-care is the most important thing. Without it, you can not give back. You run on empty. If we are to teach our children self-care, we must first model it well.

And to show I’m human too – I have two weekends child free and with glee thought of all the things I could do that would make me feel caught up on me. Instead, I have moved furniture (1 day gone) for one child, did an in-house training day with a colleague (2 days gone), Held a Tupperware party and painted a back drop for church ( 3 days gone but this one was sort of for me) and have one day left to hopefully re-organise my sewing/ craft room so I can do things I love and relax me. AND today while taking a sick day, I’m writing this blog and updating company HR paperwork. I’M HUMAN TOO and life is a challenge but I love my life and Yes I do know when to say No or enough. I just have to do it more often.

Our precious Men

This week starts the beginning of Men’s Health Week. What does that mean for you?

In my life I have amazing men, husband, sons and grandsons. Each has their challenges and triumphs but mental health plays a part in their daily life as it does for a lot of us. Men are unique in their outlook, emotions and in what we as partners, parents and society place on them. As a wife, mother and grandmother, I consciously try to pause and remind myself that they are not me and nor do that respond like me. That’s a good thing, yes it is. The world would be a boring place if we were all the same. We each have our own unique story. The past 2 years for me have been in equal parts, hell, joyful, filled with love, frustrating, confusing and overwhelming. I’ve learnt a lot about myself but more importantly a lot about them. Age really does give prospective. It not my job to fix everything or shield them from the world, rather love and support them to be in the world their way.

So, what do I try to do for my men? I practice patience and kindness. I breath in and pause, so I am responding and not reacting. That is not to say I always get it right. I, like them are human. Yesterday I had a human moment and throw a wobbly but it was short lived and my gracious hubby held space for me to step in and say, I’m feeling overwhelmed and acted badly. His silent hug and I love you, were magic.

What can we do to support the men in our lives?

Let them solve their own problems their way, without running interference for them. Unless its asked for, its not helpful.

Consider them in decision making. Does this decision support their way of being? Is it respectful of them, is it kind?

Hold space for them when they go silent. Its not, I don’t want to talk. It’s I need to think and work through it in my head and heart before I talk. (I know, I hear you. It can be hard to manage silence and it can feel like rejection, but often, its not).

See our men. Really see, who they are and what they love. Notice what upsets/ troubles them and make it known, “I am here for you if and when you need”.

Surround them with great role models of all ages so they have men to go too for support and encouragement. Men need other men, the same as we need our women friends.

Give them opportunities to lead and to support you. (Okay it may not be helpful or necessary for us, but its so needed by them).

Notice when they use their manners and are respectful to others. Encourage  and model this behaviour to them.

Give them SPACE to cry and ARMS to fall into, that offer unconditional love, silently.

Most of all, celebrate that they are in your life, for without them life would be a lot less exciting.

For all the J’s and the A that are in my life. You are seen and loved.

Beginning with me

In 2016 I was badly burnt out and struggling to figure out what I was going to do moving forward. I knew it was a complete change from what I had been doing for the last few years. Much as I love the people and the purpose that comes from working in the Community Sector, it was no longer a space where I felt I could even breathe anymore. That is what burn out is, and if you don’t attend to it things only get worse.

I took a short-term contract in the training sector, because I do have skills and qualifications that are suitable for this. However, it was too soon and my batteries were still very flat. I could not work at the level required at that time.  A kick start got me going for the day, but it didn’t keep me going.

From these experiences it was evident that I needed to take a much longer break, and really rebuild myself. My heart was missing my children and my mother who were all living in another State nearly 4,000 kilometres away. It was time to move “home”. However, there was no ‘home’ as such to go to. I had been away nearly a decade.

My very dear friend Christyne was also listening with her heart. Even though we had not had a lot of contact due to busy lives, we had a friendship that stayed true through all the changes and years between. The fact that I had remained deeply loved and valued as a friend became very evident when -out of the blue – Christyne offered me a place to stay with her and her hubby. It was very matter of fact: ‘we think you need to come home’. So the plans were made and home I came.

For the first four months I was good for nothing. Chronic asthma, fatigue and a fuzzy brain overwhelmed me. I was given space to heal and come to my own strength. I was reminded of the good things we had done together, and of the positive connections we had made with our respective family members. I was allowed to be my own person, my boundaries were respected, and my presence was welcomed. Honest and authentic conversations were ordinary daily events and these were as healing as any medicinal care that I had to take.

My recovery focused on simple strategies for living, eating healthy meals, walking regularly, being mindful and meditating, allowing myself creative space, engaging with others in healthy ways, and of course, looking after my family relationships.

From this experience, shared with Christyne and Tony, a new direction evolved. We decided to embark on a new direction together, and we have called it KiS4 Life: Keeping it Simple 4 Life. Bringing together our combined learning around mindfulness and wellbeing, we have created a platform for exploring ways of living better through different modalities. There is something for everyone here.

As each program is developed and rolled out we hope that you will find the experiences as rewarding as we have.

Peace, Light and Love


AWAKE in Perth

We worked with Kate and The Hope Project Now to bring Kate Seselja to Perth in 2017.  Kate has authored a book “AWAKE” which is endorsed by the United Nations Association Australia as meeting the Sustainable Development Goal No 3, for sustainable mental health.  The AWAKE program has been recognised as a key development tool for all of the SDG Global goals.

Kate spoke about her experiences and recovery from a significant gambling addiction, her appearance on “You Can’t Ask That” on National Television, and her travels to the USA where her work was recognised at the UN.